Perhaps we depend too heavily on others opinions, comments, and judgments when it comes to what we wear. Maybe that has stifled our own ability to be comfortable, confident, and express our own sense of style. Especially for women, there is a societal pressure it seems to wear form-fitting clothing that exposes our bodies. We’re told not to dress shapeless. Don’t dress like a potato-sack, I’ve heard it all. My confidence in clothing in my early teen and adult life was a struggle. I tried hard to mimic the cool kids or jump on the latest clothing trend, but each time I didn’t feel like myself and I wasted money on stuff that I didn’t like. I didn’t feel comfortable. I didn’t express my own individuality.
Sure, there is always inspiration from others and the classics of years gone by, but there is this general need to fit in and wear what everyone else is wearing, lest we are judged. As I’ve moved into my late 30’s, I’ve learned to let go of this noise. To listen to me better. To be confident and to express my personality the way I want through my clothing. To others, my wardrobe might look plain, boring, baggy, colorless, or shapeless. I might wear the same thing for three days straight but who cares!? If I feel comfortable, confident, and happy then that’s all I need.
And isn’t that what we would want for others?
Our kindness, compassion, creativity, and beauty will shine brighter now that we allow ourselves to express who we are - let it also be free to change and evolve. Clothing is such a beautiful and artistic way to express ourselves and we can’t take that away from others by judging or making others fit a mold.
Let’s build a new relationship with our clothing and with ourselves. It takes some inner investigation, experimenting, and curiosity but it’s necessary. Part of this relationship is also thinking about who made our clothes? How can they be worn from one season to another? Mendable? What are they made of?
Love what you wear!
Be confident! Don’t let others opinions take control. You’re beautiful!